Romance

When Your Partner Constantly Checks out
other People

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Dealing with a Wandering Eye It’s no secret that we will all encounter other people
we find attractive- and we will look. It is only
natural to look at someone who appeals to you
and there is no need to feel guilty about it, for it is in
no way being unfaithful or unloving to your
partner. But what if you have a partner who is constantly
checking other people out? Is there such thing as
looking “too much”? Is it disrespectful to you and
the relationship? While finding other people attractive is normal and
part of human nature, there is a way to go about it
and not go about it. When a person is on his or her
own, he or she can feel more free about looking at
someone else, without worrying about anyone
feeling hurt by it. When one is with their partner however, it would be best to try and be discreet
about checking someone else out. A quick glance is
harmless, but if a partner is checking someone out
in a way that is in the form of staring, exchanging
smiles or undressing them with his or her eyes, it
then become disrespectful their partner and the relationship. This can make their partner feel hurt,
upset, disrespected and even unattractive- which
can unnecessarily lower their self-esteem.

When a Wandering Eye becomes a real
problem…

Checking other people out is usually harmless if
done casually every now and then. It can become a
real problem when it is done constantly though. If
your partner is more occupied checking other
people out rather than focusing on his or her time
with you and admiring you, then it could be a sign that your partner is losing interest in the
relationship and you should start paying attention
to other signs and behaviors that can help you
figure out what is really going on.

What you should do about it…

If you have a partner with a wandering eye and are
tired of it, then it is time for communication! There is
no shame in letting your partner know that you feel
hurt and upset by his or her behavior. After all, a
relationship is about being open and honest with
each other and your partner should care about your feelings and want to make you happy. This is
not about you being immaturely jealous either- it is
about you claiming the respect you feel you
deserve from your partner (the same kind of
respect you partner would expect from you). So let
your partner know that his or her constant wandering eye is upsetting you and makes you feel
disrespected and you are not okay with it. If your
partner truly cares, then he or she will make a real
effort to stop checking other’s out in front of you,
or at least keep it under real control so you do not
feel so disrespected. If the wandering eye continues after you pour your heart out about it,
then your partner has shown you how important
your feelings are to him or her and you should then
decide if you wish to continue putting up with it or
not.

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